My name’s Taylor Seely. I’m a second-year college student majoring in journalism and double minoring in graphic design and special events management. I currently take 15 credits, work three jobs, practice yoga and dance, have a boyfriend, try my best to maintain my blog and my friendships, and last but not least: visit my family.
The complete and utter truth is I’m totally overwhelmed 95 percent of the time, I’ve spread myself far too thin and I know it, and yet when presented with new opportunities, I can’t help but say YES. I sort of feel like I’m “Yes Man,” and I need to practice being “No Man.”
In the past two weeks, I think I’ve cried over 5 times just from being stressed and overwhelmed – and I don’t cry often.
But today was the first day in weeks that I had nothing to do. (Let me preface this by saying I had a TON of homework to do but nothing in terms of leaving my apartment and going to a job). This day off was how I came to the conclusion that I NEED to stay busy:
1. The whole “you can’t feel happiness without sadness” cliché is totally true in this case. I mean honestly, I don’t think I’ve ever had a more enjoyable day sitting at my desk doing homework and drinking lattes. And I wouldn’t have enjoyed it if I did that everyday! Being constantly busy allows us to truly enjoy those slow, “mediocre” days.
2. The stress and fatigue that accompanies being busy will totally pay off in the end. Sometimes I question whether what I’m doing is going to help my future. I am currently helping a former CEO develop her blog (talk about #girlboss – she’s awesome), I teach dance three days a week, and I work as Phoenix Fashion Week Ambassador for their Operations Team. None of them are technically internships, but they all can easily go on my resume. And what I find more important than additions to my resume, is the experience that I get with these jobs. I’m learning to be a leader, how to communicate effectively, how a business works, how people work. I’m learning like crazy. No matter what the job is, you can ALWAYS learn something from it. So if you have the time and haven’t already spread yourself too thin, say YES and get some experience.
3. Being busy makes you feel accomplished, like Claire Underwood from House of Cards. Having places to go, people to see, to-do’s to check off your list is what makes you feel like you serve a purpose. With out daily tasks, you’re bound to lay in bed watching Netflix all day. Not that that’s not enjoyable, because I love Netflix as much as the next person. But I also know that when I go on my Gossip Girl binges (or House of Cards marathon), I end up watching a whole season or two in one day and then feel really bad about myself. I wonder why my life isn’t like Serena’s, and the answer is because I’m too busy watching her’s! So let’s just get out there and be proactive toward our future, yeah? And besides, it’s just fun to feel like a chic business woman at 19. Any time you see me in a blazer, you know I’m ready to roll.
4. Keeping busy broadens your horizons and exposes you to infinite possibilities. You’ve heard it before, but I’ll say it again: In today’s world it’s all about connections and who you know. If for nothing else, take the job or join the club to network and meet people. My first step in keeping busy was making this blog. From this blog I was referred by another student to the former CEO I work for. This CEO works with one of the best event planners in the country. I’m minoring in events and through her I now get to meet this planner as well as attend one of his events. I love fashion. I now work for Phoenix Fashion Week and have met the Executive Director Brian Hill and all the other fabulous staff. I’ll also get to network with the talented designers in the show. My point is – put yourself out there and you’re bound to meet some amazing people and encounter some amazing experiences.
5. Maintaining a proactive life creates a domino effect in which you become a role model for others. I think this is especially true for people who alter their lifestyles from lazy to active. If you are the first in your group of friends to start taking yoga, chances are your friends will join you. If you are the first in your group to be courageous and go for the dream job, your friends will admire your bravery and go for it too. A friend of mine told me just a while back that she had been so inspired by me in high school because I was in all these clubs and we both shared a passion for dance. She said I was the reason she joined all these extra-curriculars. I was shocked because this girl just excelled in every aspect of her life. She was a great student, great dancer, EVERYONE loved her. She’s perfect. And yet I was the one who inspired her somehow? It was super cool to hear. Super super cool. So be that positive change!
Not to get super cheesy, but “Be the change you wish to see in the world,” (Ghandi) or “Make that change.” (Michael Jackson).
Okay I totally went for it and got cheesy. Oh well.
Have a good week everyone. If you made it this long in my post, I love and appreciate you.